How INFPs can change their status

INFPs always imagine an "ideal self" in their minds, but when they actually do it, they find it far from what they want to achieve, and often give up helplessly.

As an INFP myself, after reading many self-discipline and change tutorials, what I want to say most is that the change that INFPs need is not "killing themselves" as social norms or success studies believe.

On the contrary, I think that INFPs need to really find themselves and practice bravely.

The important topic of INFP change and growth is actually a self-consistent path of self-acceptance and exploration.

In simple terms, the specific approach is to find a sustainable practical path between reality and ideals through the integration and adjustment of various personality functions.

Self-exploration and inner integration

Self-exploration is very important for INFPs, and it is also the true spiritual source of INFPs.

You cannot give up self-exploration just because it will cause internal friction. Instead, you should learn some methods to standardize and structure your self-exploration, truly achieve inner harmony and inner integration, and make yourself unified in knowledge and action, and accept yourself.

1. Insist on recording life and self-organization

For INFP sources, the core of the dominant function Fi is actually introspection and value integration.

INFP can record daily life, emotions and thoughts through various ways you like, such as text, images, and paintings, and try to sort out internal conflicts and enhance self-cognition.

Of course, this kind of self-healing and self-organizing record can also accumulate materials for your later creation.

Take me personally, I usually record as much as possible, including my dreams, small ideas that come to my mind, observations of people, things, and objects when I go out, etc.

These small happiness that accumulate slowly have also become part of the fun of my life, and they can indeed be applied in practical creation.

2. Systematically study psychology and philosophy

INFP has a natural insight into human nature and meaning, but "learning without thinking is useless, thinking without learning is dangerous."

I really recommend INFPs to systematically understand the basic knowledge of psychology or philosophy.

These basic knowledge of psychology and philosophy can provide theoretical frameworks and methodologies to help INFPs transform perceptual experiences into structured cognition and avoid excessive subjective emotions.

3. Regularly sort values ​​

INFPs always have relatively divergent thoughts, many interests, but lack integration.

Therefore, it is really important for INFPs to clarify "what is most important to me".

You can regularly sort your values ​​list (such as "sincerity and honesty > self-comfort > success > money"), especially when you encounter difficult choices, it is more recommended to list your ideas on paper and do some concrete sorting.

Therefore, reduce external interference and strengthen the consistency of action direction.

Activate inspiration and creativity

1. Cross-border learning and diverse experiences

INFP is actually a personality type that needs fresh stimulation. People often say that INFP is "three days of fishing and two days of drying the net."

This is indeed one of the characteristics of INFP's auxiliary function Ne. In other words, INFP is not "three minutes of enthusiasm", the main thing is that they cannot lack freshness.

Therefore, for INFP, cross-border learning and diverse experiences can bring different feelings.

INFP can try to learn a different art, such as painting, music, etc., to gain an experience different from the daily life;

can try to communicate with practitioners and like-minded people in the content they like, and get feedback from different people on the same thing;

can also try to get in touch with new subjects, such as anthropology, ecology, etc., to see the world from different perspectives;

can also try travel vlog shooting, hand-book diary, hand sewing, creative market and other creative activities...

In short, it is always right to do more new things that can have landing results.

They can not only help INFP inspire inspiration, but also prevent INFP from falling into rigid thinking and being overly entangled in one or two unsolvable trivial matters.

2. Regularly "daydream" time to build inspiration library and mind map

For INFP, daze is a "compulsory course", haha.

Therefore, INFPs can deliberately set aside some time for aimless reverie.

INFP can completely discover new perspectives in unstructured thinking.

This kind of daze is not limited to lying in the house in a daze, it can also be a walk close to nature, or free meditation, which are all very helpful for improving spirituality.

In addition to these reverie time, INFP is always full of various fantastic ideas, and it can also be said that they are also unrestrained.

Please don't let these ideas slip away like shooting stars.

Sort out these scattered ideas through visual tools (such as handbooks and mind maps), and they can all be transformed into systematic creative materials.

With the gradual accumulation, you may exclaim "I am a genius!"

Socialization and action improvement

1. Set micro goals and action lists

INFP has always been labeled as "poor execution".

Indeed, one of the reasons is that INFP's Te shortcoming leads to relatively weak execution.

But this does not mean that there is no way to change. INFPs can try to break down big goals into fine-grained small goals with specific actions such as "writing 500 words a day".

Gradually cultivate action inertia, and record the done list to promote the awakening of INFP's achievement motivation, thus creating a virtuous circle.

2. Establish an "emotion-action" separation mechanism

Another reason for INFP's weak action is emotional interference.

Try to use "act first and then feel" instead of "wait for inspiration to act".

INFPs can set a fixed creation/work time for themselves, and quickly enter the state when the time comes, thereby reducing the negative interference of emotions on execution.

In fact, if INFPs want to change their status, it is important to really see themselves.

See your own "want" and "don't want". For the "don't want" part, don't force yourself and say no bravely;

For the "want" part, you can transform big goals into small people, and through the continuous accumulation and precipitation of bits and pieces, you will eventually achieve the "self-consistent road".

I wish you can meet yourself, accept yourself, and achieve yourself~